Scale Soap Box

Excuse me while I get on my soapbox for a second…

Why are we always so mean to ourselves? Why do we put so much stock in a piece of metal or glass THING on the floor of our bathroom?! Why does the scale have the power to ruin our entire day before it even begins?!

We’ve been conditioned to allow the scale to give us some sense of self worth.

We need to get away from this.

The only way to free ourselves from this trap is to really, actually, fully love ourselves and appreciate our bodies.

Easier said than done, I get it.

Trust me do I get it.

But I think that if we can get into the practice of talking more positively to ourselves each day. Really make it a habit. We can get away from putting so much into a number on a scale.

A few ways that I personally incorporate positive self talk into my life:

  • Journaling: I journal gratitude lists regularly. Things I am grateful for in my life, but also within myself. It is amazing what gratitude can do to change your perspective

  • Sticky notes: I actually am known to put sticky notes around (bathroom/bedroom mirror s a great place!!) with positive things about myself and my life

  • Positive affirmations / mantras: sometimes it's hard to look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I am beautiful” or “I CAN do this” - but it’s such a good thing to practice. Speak to yourself like you’d speak to your best friend - KINDLY and with LOVE!  

If you are one of my (amazing) clients, you have maybe heard me preach about a book.. A book that changed my life. The Gifts of Imperfections by Brene Brown is a book that spoke to me on so many levels. It took my fears, my insecurities and issues with self-love and put them out on the table.

“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.”

I mean, kick me right in the face, amirite?!

We all want happiness: that elusive *moment* of when, all of the sudden, we are happy. So many of us strive for *perfect*. We want to look a certain way, weigh a certain amount, and THEN, and only then, will we be happy.

Its time to ditch that.

We are ENOUGH. Right this very second. To quote her book again, “Here's what is truly at the heart of wholeheartedness: Worthy now, not if, not when, we're worthy of love and belonging now. Right this minute. As is.”

Its time to start speaking kinder to ourselves.

“Now I understand that in order to feel a true sense of belonging, I need to bring the real me to the table and that I can only do that if I’m practicing self-love. For years I thought it was the other way around: I’ll do whatever it takes to fit in, I’ll feel accepted, and that will make me like myself better. Just typing those words and thinking about how many years I spent living that way makes me weary. No wonder I was tired for so long!”

Okay, have I talked you into buying this book on Amazon RIGHT NOW?!

Its okay if you don’t.

The point of this whole dang soap box is this..

We are worthy of everything good in the world: despite that number on the scale.

Author: Kelsey Kiel, Black Iron Nutrition Coach, @kelskiel